Is Toxicity Stealing Your Potential?

This is something I believe we all deal with occasionally, sometimes more than others. The reason why is simple .. We live in a toxic world. Whether it is a relationship, a situation, a problem at work or school, toxic is toxic.

I felt compelled to write this, due to how I came upon this very situation yesterday, and my reaction to it. My reaction to the situation was NOT the way I should have handled it. I instead reacted in a way that was not me.

So here it is ..my situation. I'm not going to get into all the details, as it can be very lengthy to the entire explanation, but I'll break it down to a shorter version.

I have had some changes in my life. One of those changes had led me to open my covenstead in the heart of Washington, Georgia. Also in this location, were to be my home, as well as where I opened my store. This location turned out to be not what I thought it could be. Upon my research of the property, I could have all of the above legally, as this is what the ad for it said it was zoned for. Well, this wasn't the case. The property is .. apparently, zoned for a different purpose. It is due too this zoning where troubles began. I have come up with a solution to fix everything, meaning selling that place and buy another where we CAN have all that we need the property to serve. We need a place where we can sever the community, help others and also have a place to live ..all in one location.

Not knowing all of this, I had campers put in, and accepted an invitation for someone to come to the property and help me build up this community. This person ended up being my Priest and other half.

There was someone in his life previously, that was not happy about his successes, nor mine, and this person lashed out on social media. I am not mentioning any names, that isn't what I do. This person was more jealous it seems, or angry .. who knows their reasoning, at the man I'm with. Their social media post was plastered on my groups! It pissed me off really. I know I shouldn't have let it bother me, but I was not in my "Priestess" state of mind, I was in the more "human" .. "worldly" state of mind, and I went on the defensive.

As I mentioned, I went on the defensive. I retaliated by writing this person a message in FB messenger. I told this person exactly what I thought of them and their toxic post. I mentioned that they shouldn't be writing things about a situation they knew nothing about. I told them they needed to climb out of the toxic sewer they were in.

You know what? ....

By doing so, I put myself in that same toxic sewer! I stooped down to their level.

This is not how a Pagan, a Wiccan, or better yet, a Priestess should behave.

I realized this after laying in bed a while after I had written this person that message. I grabbed my phone, feeling bad about MY behavior, and erased the message.

I realized that, even though they did what they did, doesn't mean I need to address the situation, whether by message, or any other means. I don't ever wish harm on anyone, even if they have tried to do harm to me. This is not who, or what we are. We are better than this. And, as I said, after a while, I realized this, and corrected myself. Had I let it stay out there, it would have eaten at me. I know that this type of behavior is wrong.

Whenever we let a toxic situation make us behave in a toxic manner, it does take away from us. It steals the very essence we were gifted. It toxifies our souls, blemishes our minds, and sometimes can even make us physically sick. It causes our chakras to be out of balance. There isn't anything about a toxic situation, no matter the venue it takes, that is for anything good.

I'm not saying that we are never going to react to the situation, but we should never stay in that reaction. Learning how to remove yourself, before becoming toxic to your own self is absolutely priceless. We are meant to be kind, loving and live in peace. But due to the society we live in, not coming across this toxic crap is inevitable .. that is unless you stay in your own environment or bubble.

There are many techniques out there that will help you to heal yourself, if you've gone too far like I did, or block yourself from reacting .. catch yourself before you react.

In my case, I had a lot going on in my own mind, that I didn't realize I had done what I did until moments later. OK, it was hours. But I did manage to remove what I did before the person saw what I wrote.

It's almost like learning to think before we speak. Not an easy task in a lot of cases, but achievable.

Our brains are trainable, and with that, so are our reactions. We need to learn to slow down, think ahead. We need to ask ourselves questions, and hopefully come up with some positive answers. Ask yourself; Do I really need to react to this? What will happen if I do? How will this make me feel afterward? Is what I'm doing who I am? Is what I'm doing what I am? And lastly, Is what I am about to do lead to more toxicity?

Not reacting is more times than not, the better road to go, but we are still human. I knew better and still reacted, but I corrected my reaction. Sometimes when we react quickly, before giving it any thought, it can't be taken back. Just like words spoken out loud. The person has already heard your words, and the Universe has already heard you as well.

We all, myself included, need to be more mindful of our actions, and reactions and strive to become our best. We need to be reaching for the goals that lead us to our highest ideals, and operating on our highest frequency.

I'm going to end this here, as I'm sure it is already quite lengthy. But I will write an extension of this in the next Blog. It will be along the lines of how to stop yourself from becoming toxic, and how to "fix" it if you do.

Until we meet again ..

Blessed Be Everyone